Understanding the Sad

A lot of the time I can not explain why I am sad and when I was younger I would make up lies to make people think I had a reason to be sad when in all reality it was just how my brain was wired. Now at 18 I still feel that way sometimes. I can be depressed for no reason and it is one of the most frustrating things I struggle with. I can become angry with myself and say "just be happy." That thinking is not realistic, because unfortunately a lot of the time I am sad for just no reason other than I'm sad. What is most important that I have gotten from all of this is, that is just going to have to be enough. Being sad cause I'm just sad. And thats ok. I have two women in my life who taught me many of thing, but one thing they both taught me is how important communication is when you are just have a sad day. Once you find someone who you can confide in and trust and then you can express how you're feeling, a little bit of that pain in your chest will fade. Sometimes I will text a good friend of mine at 3am knowing she will not text back, but I know she will read it in the morning, but I was able to get those feelings out. Another thing is writing your feelings on a piece of paper and ripping it up. I have used this coping tool so much! I have used it today! There are so many options, other than sitting in your bed, listening to sad music, and crying. Now this is not to say I don't do that from time to time, because I do. Sometimes I need that time to just cry and get things out, but you cant be down and out forever. You need to get up and go do something.

Life is gonna kick you around sometimes. You need to build up a defense and make sure you are keeping yourself safe.

Never give up, Stay Strong, and keep taking those baby steps.

Katelyn

Sometimes Quiet is Violent

One thing I struggled with a lot is speaking up about how I feel. I always wanted people to think I was happy and perfect and everything was fine. I would walk in my room and fall apart. on my knees crying, begging to a God who I wasn't even sure if he was listening, to just let me die. I would eventually cut, cry myself to sleep and do it all over again. How bad I wanted to my parents to walk in while I was cutting or while I was crying and hold me and tell me I was ok, but they never walked in. They would see the after math of what I had done to myself. They would ask why I didn't tell them. Why I didn't share with them my pain. I wanted to fix myself. I wanted to do everything by myself.

Now while I am away at college I am trying to figure out this whole life thing and many times while trying to figure myself out it has left me in tears. Being on my own has forced me to learn coping skills. Its been a sink or swim time and I may only be doggy paddling but I'm ok and ok is better than sad. And ok is somewhere I am perfectly content with.

If you having trouble, if you are struggling, if you have fallen and can't get up, call someone. Tell someone if you are sad don't let it get to the part where you confide in a blade. If you don't wanna talk about your problems thats ok, just talk to talk. Get you mind off the negative and try to focus on the positive.

You can do this,
You can make it one more night,
You can make it through.

Baby steps my dear,

Katelyn.

Something to Believe In

While trying to continue on the long road of recovery it is important to have something or someone to believe in. Now, I want you to take a second and think about what the someone or something is.
                        Do you have it? Now go and grab a piece of paper and write it down. Look at what you wrote, think about it for a minute, really think. Now when you're ready tear it up and throw it away. Now go grab another piece of paper and write ME on it. Hold that piece of paper and go look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself, "I believe in me." The only person you need to believe in is you. The only thing you need to believe in is your strength. You are the one who is gonna have that power to put that blade down, to wipe your tears, and pick yourself back up. This does not mean you do not need a support system made up of friends and family, but like I have said many times before, you are the only one who can save you.

Hang that piece of paper on a mirror where you look at yourself often so you can remember who you are believing in everyday, YOU.

Listen to me, no artsy or depressing pictures. No distracting fonts or colors. Just read, somebody cares, in fact I care and it will get easier. It may not seem like it I know, but I promise you that at least one person cares about you and values your life. You are so beautiful and you deserve so much more than what you are doing to yourself. Don't hurt yourself, don't beat yourself down, don't hold it in. Just let it all out, and breathe, because just the fact that you can breathe is pretty amazing. Don't give that up. When the razor, knife, pill, whatever it is, is whispering you name know i'm yelling yours at the top of my lungs. I know the skin your living in hurts a lot of the time, but please don't keep tearing it open. You are worth fighting for. SO keep fighting through the pain, through the tears, through those dark nights. You'll make it out alive, I know you will, because if I can do it, anyone can. You can do this.

Stay strong. Just keep taking those baby steps, you'll get there.

Much Love,

Katelyn.

To Be Wanted by Plugin Stereo 

You don't know what you got so you just give it away.
To anyone who's looking.
Makes your heart want to stop, When he refuses to stay.

So save your love for somebody who earns it. don't cave because of the wait'll be worth it.
Don't be something you're not because you'll be running in place.
Feel like you might come undone. Well you're not the only one.

Cause we all just want to be wanted. Want to be all somebody needs.
Yeah we're all just looking for something. That gives us a reason to believe.
That no matter what you're going through. You hold on to the key.
Yeah we all just want to be wanted. So if you're wanted. Let me hear you say

Yep, you're beautiful
Let everybody know
It's indisputable.

You don't know what it's like, To have a place called home.
Getting pulled in all directions.
And since your parents gave up, You Were left with nowhere to go.
Feel like you might come undone, Well you're not the only one.

Cause we all just want to be wanted. Want to be all somebody needs.
Yeah we're all just looking for something. That gives us a reason to believe.
That no matter what you're going through. You hold on to the key.
Yeah we all just want to be wanted. So if you're wanted. Let me hear you say
Yep, you're beautiful
Let everybody know
It's indisputable.

Cause we all just want to be wanted. Want to be all somebody needs.
Yeah we're all just looking for something. That gives us a reason to believe.
That no matter what you're going through. You hold on to the key.
Yeah we all just want to be wanted. So if you're wanted. Let me hear you say
Yep, you're beautiful
Let everybody know
It's indisputable.

You Don't Have to Go

I would be lying if I said I never triggered myself so I would cut. I knew I wanted to do it so bad, but I wasn't numb enough. I would listen to that one song or watch that one clip from that movie, or just look at those pictures on that website and it was because of those that I could trick myself into becoming numb enough so the cuts wouldn't hurt. This cycle was killing me. I had people telling me to stop listening, reading, watching, but I had no interest I knew I needed to cut but I couldn't do it with out those things. And If you self harm and you unfortunately know what I am talking about, stop doing it. Its not worth that new scar or the lose of that next pound. You could be that next day closer to being self harm be if you wouldn't trigger yourself. I know that its hard when you can feel the next episode building inside and you just want to get out your pain somehow. And I know it feels like the only way to get your hurt out, but its not. Tumblr is  not gonna keep you clean. The only person who can save you, is you and I know you probably hate when people tell you that, I know I used to. That saying used to make me so mad and so upset, it would actually make me want to self harm even more, but I am telling you thats true. No one could learn the coping skills for me, no one could talk in therapy for me, and no one could put down the razor except for me. So yes its hard. Yes it hurts and yes a lot of the time you don't think you are going to make it through the day, but you can and you will. I did it. I am doing it. You don't have to be stuck. You don't have to cry every day. You don't have to be locked inside you mind. You can live instead of just surviving. You can breathe without your chest feeling like its going to cave. You don't have to dread being in your room at night. You don't have to keep self harming. You don't need to leave this world. All you need to do is stay here, with us, with the people that love and care about you. And if you don't think people care, well I care. I will always care.

Just keep taking those baby steps my dear,

xoxo

Katelyn.


Try by Colbie Caillat

Put your make up on
Get your nails done
Curl your hair
Run the extra mile
Keep it slim so they like you, do they like you?

Get your sexy on
Don't be shy, girl
Take it off
This is what you want, to belong, so they like you
Do you like you?

You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to, give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing

You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
Yooou don't have to try

Get your shopping on, at the mall, max your credit card
You don't have to choose, buy it all, so they like you
Do they like you?

Wait a second,
Why, should you care, what they think of you
When you're all alone, by yourself, do you like you?
Do you like you?

You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to, give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing

You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to bend until you break
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing

You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try

You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
Yooou don't have to try

Keep Fighting

Recovery is a constant process of fighting and a lot of times I get really tired and I just want to give up, but that is not an option. In order to win this battle its so important to keep going. To press on and not stop. Sometimes it seems like waking up is hard maybe even breathing seems like too much, but you have to keep fighting. You have to keep going. I know it seems like there is no end to the pain of recovery, but if there is one thing I will say is that there will come a day where you will wake up and you'll be ok. and It may not be for a long time, weeks, months, maybe even years, but there will come a time where you will be ok. You may never be the happiest person in the world, but you also wont be miserable. The storm will pass, it always does. 

Just take baby steps my dear,

with much love,

Katelyn.